The Dating Game

Boys are weird.  I go through fluctuations of "no dates forever and boys are dumb"... or "lots of blind dates and set-ups and boys are confusing."  I don't know which one I prefer. 

And then there's the situations like I encountered after FHE this week when a group of 3 boys (none of which I have any interest in... and one I really don't like at all) called my name a few times-- I ignored them-- then they yelled out "BREE!" again and I finally turned and said, "What?!"  The one boy said, "Uhh... my guitar is getting dusty."  (That was his way of saying, 'Remember how you were going to teach me how to play the guitar?' and it was like he had been dared into saying it by his buddies because he's too much of a wuss to have a normal conversation with me on his own.)  So I said, "Well then pick it up and play it."  (I was annoyed and getting into my car and not in the mood for high school-ish boys).  He replied, "I do pick it up but all I get is "blah blah blah" and I stopped listening.  So I just shrugged and said I hardly have time to play the guitar these days and ended with something like "good luck. " Then I got in my car and drove off. 

I felt kind of like a jerk, because usually I'm the girl who will say hi to any boy and be nice and willing to go out at least once with anyone.  It stemmed from church dances as a youth and never telling a boy no for asking me to dance-- props to him for having the courage to talk to a girl!  But now-a-days... I'm done with games and done with lazy boys and done with boys who can't even muster up the courage to talk to me like a normal human being.  So does this make me too picky?  Sometimes I wonder... but I've decided I deserve a good boy.  A champion.

Right now there are 2 boys who I kind of go back and forth with.  Neither of which I am super giddy over, and neither of which has showed TONS of interest... but both have made enough efforts for me to have to weigh the options and think, "Hmmm."  One is my age, which is weird because I usually hang out with younger people and most likely don't know how to socialize with 30 yr olds.  The other boy is 7 years younger *gasp* and that's just funny to me.  Both like music.  Both are outdoorsy.  Both dress nice and seem attractive to me.  When it comes to spirituality one seems to rise above the other.  When it comes to being established and owning a home, one is ahead of the other.  *shrug*  It's interesting. 

My natural self would initiate dates and think of fun things to do and kind of "pre-plan" my week to be available and what not.  But one of my goals is to just be natural and not make all the efforts on my own.  The boys need to work!  If they really like me (as I've learned in "He's Just Not That Into You"-- the BOOK)... they will certainly make the time.  If a boy likes me, he will call or text or whatever.  So I'm at the point where I'm just waiting to see who does what, and who makes the efforts.  And maybe neither of these boys will really take the initiative and I'll be back to square one of no dates for a while.  But I guess we'll see!