Blind Date: Shorter & Older...

So this has happened more than once:  I get set up on a blind date.  "Blind date" since Facebook reveals all. Anyway,  the blind date comes and goes, the guy is nice, but nothing really comes of it.  Then months later the guy suddenly calls, texts, or sends a FB message.  My wheels start turning and I try to decided if I would consider going out with this guy again.  Just as I'm trying to wrap my head around it, the guy says, "Hey... I have a friend I think you'd really like.  He's a great guy and I think you're a 'stellar, down-to-earth, talented' girl and you'd probably have a good time together.  Whaddaya say?"  What?  Where did this come from?  I finally hear back from this dude but it's only because he wants to set me up with his friend?  Weird.  But okay.

One blind date guy tried to set me up with 2 different guys... and both times blind date guy cancelled or said we'd have to postpone or just kept making excuses why it wouldn't work.  I decided in my mind that blind date guy secretly liked me and couldn't handle the thought of me going out with someone else. (haha)  Well that blind date guy was 9 yrs younger than me so it's all good.  He is young and learning.  

Just tonight another blind date guy from a year ago (I can't even remember) added me on FB and there I was browsing through all his pics, thinking, "Hmmm... he WAS pretty cute, and he looks like he's doing a lot of fun things.  He'd be fun to hang out with again."  So there I am stalking his FB wall and pics and he sends a little FB chat thing.  Whoops!  Caught me red-handed.  Of course I didn't tell him that though.  We chat for a few minutes and then the usual happened.  

Am I dating anyone?  Nope.  He says his brother is here for the summer from NY and is hoping to jump-start his social life.  He's a good-looking guy, outdoorsy, intelligent, solid in the Church, etc.  Would I consider meeting him?  Hmmm... sure.  I'm always willing to go on at least ONE date. 

I go back to this blind date boy's FB page where I had previously seen pics of his family.  Seriously, FB makes it way too easy.  I look at his brothers and try to guess which one it is.  Then blind date guy asks me 2 more questions.

"Are you adamantly opposed to dating someone shorter than you?"  (He's 5'4"... I'm 5'6")  No, that's not really a big deal.  Well, it kind of is but that wouldn't keep me from liking the guy.

"Are you opposed to dating someone who is 41? (forty-one)

Yikes!  That was the first thing that came to mind, unfortunately. YIKES.  I think I can handle height and what not... that's not a huge factor for me.  But the age thing is definitely kind of a factor for me.  I went on a blind date with a guy who was 3 yrs older than me a few weeks ago and I felt like I was having dinner with my teacher or something.  I'm just not really one to click with guys who are older than me... especially when I am such a kid at heart.  Needless to say, I haven't heard back from that guy, which doesn't surprise me.  

So... am I a jerk for suddenly not wanting to give it a first date because he's 41?  I'm 32.  I feel like I'm 16.  Call me socially retarded but I can barely talk to people my own age.  (Your'e thinking, "Well Bree, you better start learning to talk to people your own age" and I nod my head and say, "Yes, yes, I know"). So I told blind date guy to let me think about it.  The next 2 weeks are just crazy but maybe I'd consider.  He hasn't said anything to his brother yet, so that's a good thing, in case I end up doing the jerk thing and saying, "Nahhh...."

In the mean time, there is another blind date guy that is waiting in the wings.  We'll call him Phone Tag boy.  My friend said this guy is amazing. (Aren't they all).  And she said I'm amazing and we just have to meet.  We've played phone tag and text tag and I'm not in any huge hurry to make it happen, but it's enough to keep me interested and thinking maybe this guy could be fun.  He seems to have a boisterous personality and I like that.  I went on a blind date walk with a super nice guy a few weeks ago but he was so chill... almost TOO chill... and soft-spoken... but so nice.  I would hang out with him again but not going out of my way to make a huge effort.  Chill boy needs to perk up a little.  

Wow, you'd think I was some kind of blind date machine right now.  Not really.  My life is currently consumed with church and work responsibilities... and things will slow down mid-August, but for now I'm totally okay not dealing with boys.  Men.  Ew.  "Men" sounds so old.  I'll work on that.  Guys.  Dudes.  Whatev.